Our objective is to find you a Latin wife. You will meet many Latin women who will have qualities you seek in a wife. But with so many beautiful women, who will have the right qualities? It’s very difficult during the early dating stages to determine if a particular woman will be a six-month girlfriend, a three-year wife, or a lifetime wife. To find a good wife will take comprehensive knowledge of the woman you are dating, focused attention to your objective, alert observation skills, and pinpoint recognition of any potential attributes, signs, or behavior that could derail the relationship in the future, and even then there is no guarantee. One will never know what difficult situations a relationship may face and how couples may change over time. A long-distance, mixed-cultured relationship creates its own challenges. You won’t have the casual up-close dating rituals of knowing and understanding your girlfriend that we are use to. Your short visits to Colombia will require a different approach in evaluating the many Hispanic women you will meet. Unless you want to make many trips to Colombia to find a wife, it is best to determine who fits the criteria you have for a wife by asking the appropriate questions early and often. Only when both the husband and the wife have true compatibility and love will a marriage prosper and last. Love alone is not sufficient.
The sample questions we provide below along with your own follow-up questions (why, when, where, who etc.) will help reveal your compatibility with potential partners. The timing for the questions is important and will of course vary depending on the stage of your relationship. For the group introductions, keep most of the questions and conversation light, fun, and spontaneous. Share pictures and aspects of your life and hometown. For your one-on-one dates, have mentally prepared questions to learn who shares your interests and values and complements you goals and needs. The questions should be open ended to avoid leading the women to an answer that meets your expectations. Hispanic women have a tendency to be very courteous and gracious in your presence and often say things to be kind and polite rather than true and direct, especially if they feel they will cause hurt or create disagreement. For example, instead of saying, "Religion is very important to me, please describe your faith in God." Ask the question without exposing your position or feelings toward the topic. For example, "Do you go to Church?" and follow-up with a why you do or do not go to Church. Make the exchange of questions enjoyable and entertaining. You want your date to see you as a fun suitor and not as a dry interviewer. But be alert to any questions that are not definitively answered. Many Hispanic women will give answers that are incomplete and insufficient without further follow-up from you.
As you begin to know her intimately, personal questions become appropriate. Take the time to know how her day went. Daily communication will allow you to see how she reacts to different conditions, such as stress, sadness, frustration, hurt, and anger, and how the idiosyncrasies of your personalities blend under these different scenarios. The content, passion, and frequency of her emails to you will tell you the depth and extend of her interest. She should answer all your questions and have questions herself. We provide the women with similar questions, but Hispanics are not an inquisitive culture, and you will get less inquiry from them. The learning and questions should be ongoing, and her actions should coincide with her answers. If her behavior is not consistent with her words, you should be hesitant to move forward in the relationship. It is important that you feel comfortable that there is long-term compatibility before love develops. Once you start falling in love your body chemistry changes, causing you to have obsessive feelings towards your partner and blindness to any red flags or flaws in the relationship. At a later stage such flaws may lead to a break-up. We suggest that you do not make a commitment to marriage until after a second visit. While no precautions can guarantee a permanent match, it is within your power by good evaluation of her answers and behavior to identify incompatibility and inconsistencies before making a commitment. We can also help as a resource for advice and assistance at all times and stages of your relationship. With the proper approach you can find, without compromise, one of the gems of Colombia, a beautiful Hispanic wife.